Better Times

[cbreeze]

:D

"Just Venting" took a turn that I didn't expect it to take. And as much as I DO appreciate everybodys advice and insight, I'm beginning to fell like a total *downer*, which was not my intention.....

Today, my intention is to "Look On The Bright Side" of marriage :) To share anything that our spouses have done for us, and we have done for them.....that made us feel good :)

I'm still kind of in a *dark* state, but I know that we shared some good times or we wouldn't have gotten married. And we wouldn't still be married if there wasn't something good in our lives.

My happiest experience with my H; this may sound lame, but first I would have to say our kids. 2 daughters, 9 and 13, both very beautiful and both *very* different. One is all girl, and one is all tom-boy. I realize that God had most of the say about our daughters, but I try to remind my husband that he and his genes are capable of performing their own miracles. (The doctors said I would never get pregnant). My husband glows when I give him the credit for our children. And being able to make him glow, in turn makes me warm all over.

The most recent experience we shared was fishing. We both enjoy it, and is a great getaway. Last month while we are the lake, I wasn't catching anything but moss, and he was catching left and right. Only little fish, but enough for him to eat. (I don't eat fish). I was having a good time just relaxing and being with him, but also getting frustrated that I wasn't catching anything. He offered to give me his spot...which made me smile a whole bunch inside, but I didn't want to take his *turf*, so I told him I was fine where I was. Not 10 minutes later, I got a bite that about pulled my pole out of my hands. I started bringing it in, but it was fighting harder than I ever had one fight (catfish). Deep down, I imagined my line breaking and my H getting upset about that, so I gave my H the pole. He brought the cat in, without breaking the line, and we were both in total awe. For our neck of the woods, it was a BIG fish (6-8 lbs.). This was our first time cat fishing, and we were very unprepared for this. We didn't even know how to string something this big, and already learned from the little ones that they *sting*, we were worried about this big on. I suggested unhooking him, and putting him back in the lake to finish his life....but my H said "no way". (He was thrilled with this catch). Anyway, neighboring fishermen came over to help us, and they were amazed at his size as much as we were. And of course they asked who caught it....and before my husband could say a word, I gave him the credit. Rightfully, he did catch it, I just hooked it. That was another *glowing* moment for my husband, which in turn made me feel good. It also made me feel good when he tried to give me the credit to the neighboring fishermen.

Not your *typical* fish story, as this one didn't get away, but to have 2 total klutzes catch what people refered to as "the biggest fish to come out of that lake in a long time", showed us how working together still makes us happy.


I have lots more......but it's your turn. Nothing is too lame if it makes you smile :) and feel warm all over.

[jamesglewisf]

My wife is funny. She likes to give me a hard time. For instance:

If I say something about my hair, she always says, "What hair?". (I'm losing mine.)

If I ask her, "Can you hand me the ...", she'll always reply, "I don't know. Let me give it a try." ("can" versus "will" versus "may".)

She cracks me up on a regular basis.

[Anat]

Yeah, humor is very important.

Tzachi always makes me laugh. He's very good with puns and word play. Sometimes he makes up something that's too sophisticated for most people to understand and I'm the only one who manages to follow his intricate minf :)

What also makes me "warm all over" as Cbreeze puts it watching him taking such good care of our cats. He always thought he dislikes cats until we found 5 stray kittens on the street 2.5 years ago. They were only 3-4 weeks old and helpless. We found them just on time before they began scattering around. some children were nearby wondering if kittens can swim in a nearby ditch (unfortunately they checked with one of the kittens before we found them but we managed to save him as well). Anyway, it was Tzachi who found them and we took them home.

We managed to find homes to four of them. The lady from the rescue organization who came to pick uo the last three of them said that there are homes available only for two of them and the third would be put to sleep. I was alone at home at the time. We have discussed the issue and decided not to keep cats because we live in a small apartment. But I couldn't let them put the last kitten to sleep, so in a spur-of-the-moment decision I told the lady to leave the third kitten with us.

I was worried about Tzachi's response. This was not what we decided together and I thought he might be upset (and with a good reason - it's not an easy decision to make and one that should involve both of us). When he got home he was so happy to see the kitten! He said I did the right thing and that it was probably meant to be. 2 months later we brought home another kitten to keep company to the first... Would you believe he actually volunteered to take care of the litter box? He loves them so much. It always makes me smile when I hear him talking about our cats with other people - he's ever so proud of them...:)

Actually, he's in for a little surprise, as there's a third one asleep on the chair next to me... I can't leave them on the street. This one is so sweet-natured. I already found a home for him, but I'm keeping him for a while until they get organized.

Anat

[In_His_Shadow]

Oh Anat well I can tell at least as far as kittens go we are kindred spirits. I'm so bad that I have had my youngest daughters school call me when they have a stray running around up there. My husband says the cats must roam around the neighborhood telling all the others about our house because this is where they all show up.

My husband was like your boyfriend about cats, but the last one we saved from drowning (was two weeks old and had been abandoned by its mother during a hard storm) it was actually him that heard it's cry and came in and got the flashlight and headed out in the storm to rescue it. After $200 dollars in vet bills she is doing wonderful and seems totally oblivious to her debt to us.

Do ya'll have the electric litter box in Israel. What a blessing it has been for me. The cat uses it and after about 5 minutes after its through this little arm comes through and carrys the waste to a seperate box that stays closed the rest of the time. Boy I don't think I explained that one well at all. Anyway no more cleaning litter boxes or smell. Once a week a little beep goes off and I know to go and empty the little seperate box takes about 5 seconds. Maybe I can find something on it on the internet if you haven't heard of it.

My husbands response to our cat(s) indoor and out also gives me the fuzzy feelings. You can bet that this shows a hint of what kinda father he will be. It will only be multiplied about a zillion times.

CJ

[blinc]

Awww... that is such a sweet story. They can surprise ya sometimes can't they? About the time you think they are all gruff and stuff, out comes the soft side. :)

I guess for me, one thing that my husband does never fails to amaze me. He never lets a day go by that he doesn't tell me he loves me. We've been together fourteen years and it's just wonderful that we're still so much in love. He says things like how he's the luckiest man on earth. That if he loved me any more he wouldn't be able to leave the house and go to work. You know, all those goofy but sweet things they say... the things that mean the world to us.

[In_His_Shadow]

Ok girls, this has me thinking and I would like to hear what you think.

Do you believe we are in long term happy relationships because:

1) We work at it
2) It was pre-ordain by God
3) It was providence
4) We just happen to be lucky

Or whatever reason. Do you have a thought on this? My husband and I have talked about this many times. The night we met had I not taken the turn I did, or had he left a few seconds earlier what would have happened then? Would we still have met because we were suppose to? Or would we have just missed out because of bad timing?

Love to hear what you think.

CJ

[TWTCommish]

Ahhh! Too much estragen...can't...breath! :D

Guys have a soft spot for animals - most like dogs, but your average person, guy or not, just flat out likes animals. Animals look up to people most of the time. They essentially worship us - and who doesn't like that? :)

It's in our nature to want to care for less intelligent/smaller creatures. It's one of the reasons we love our children so much - they're just so helpless, small and frail. If they came out full grown as smart-aleck teenagers like myself, we'd have a lot more given up for adoption. :)

[Debby]

My husband is also losing his hair a little, James, he has the receding hairline thing, and is fond of saying...when the hair's gone, Debby's gone. (which of course is not true) LOL One thing that really endears me to my husband is what a wonderful father he is...he and I do not have children together but he has a 10 year old son and a daughter who is almost 16....and they are the most beautiful children on earth ( I couldnt love them any more if I had given birth to them) anyway....he is so good to them, and does so many things with them, especially his son, he takes him fishing, sledding, etc...he is the most wonderful father!!!! He would do anything for them!! I find this even more meaningful since his own father comitted suicide when he was only 6, and so he grew up without a father role model, but he is the best father in the whole world!!!!!