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Justawoman
10-04-2005, 09:21 AM
I am so glad my monthly magazines are online. This way I can share with you all the articles that really stick out and yell at me. I left the title of this thread the same as the article in this months US News. As you read on you will understand why. As a parent of school aged children this article was upsetting to me because as a parent, often times I do feel like my opinion is not wanted at my children's schools. I stick my nose in anyway. I hope you all do too.

David and Tonia Parker of Lexington, Mass., saw a red flag when their son came home from kindergarten last January with a "diversity book bag" that included Who ' s in a Family, a book promoting acceptance of gay marriage. The Parkers thought it was their right, as parents, to decide when and how to introduce their son to the issue of homosexuality.

The Parkers did not attack the "diversity book bag" program. They requested notification of any future school discussions of homosexuality so they could have their son opt out. They pointed to a state law defending the opt-out right of parents. The school argued that the law pertained to sex education, not discussion of family forms. In a series of E-mails, the school agreed to a meeting, where the Parkers thought an accommodation would be offered. When the school took a hard-nosed stance instead, David Parker refused to leave school property. He was arrested, led off to jail in handcuffs, then allowed out on bail.

The American Civil Liberties Union of Massachusetts said the school is on sound legal ground (no surprise there), arguing that "public education would grind to a halt if parents had the right to demand classes tailored to each child based on the parent's moral views."

The strongly liberal Boston Globe offered some questionable reporting on the controversy. In one report last May, it blandly referred to Who ' s in a Family as "a book that depicts a same-sex couple." Another report quoted a smug educational bureaucrat comparing the Parkers' argument to that of a parent who wanted James and the Giant Peach removed from a school. But the dispute isn't about censorship, oversensitive parents, or even gay marriage. The Parkers have made no antigay statements and have kept their argument tightly focused on parental rights to allow their children to opt out on issues of sexuality and lessons that implicitly approve gay marriage.
http://www.usnews.com/usnews/opinion/articles/051010/10john.htm


I for one am tired of the double standards of schools. They tell us they want us to be a part of our childs educational process. Then when caring parents do voice an opinion/concern/moral view point the parent is treated like a trespassing stranger. Who is actually raising our children?

Hannamoren
10-05-2005, 02:08 AM
As you say, it is a dubble standard. It is so hard when you try to go against anything the school does. (Not that I necessarily would have done it in this case)

Justawoman
10-05-2005, 07:26 AM
I would have been one of those parents wanting to use the opt out. I believe it is my place and my spouse's to teach sexuality at home. They do have the fundamental sex class here for those children entering middle school, then once again midway through middle school and then again (once or twice) when they are in high school. I know because you have to sign a consent form. But teaching what is normal and is not normal in the sex department is not the school's place or job. Teaching tolerance should start at home.

raybeck
10-05-2005, 09:12 AM
I would have been one of those parents wanting to use the opt out. I believe it is my place and my spouse's to teach sexuality at home. They do have the fundamental sex class here for those children entering middle school, then once again midway through middle school and then again (once or twice) when they are in high school. I know because you have to sign a consent form. But teaching what is normal and is not normal in the sex department is not the school's place or job. Teaching tolerance should start at home.

Couldn't have said it better myself, JAW!!!

Hannamoren
10-05-2005, 11:30 AM
Teaching tolerance should start at home.{clapping} Well said!

raybeck
10-05-2005, 10:39 PM
Okay, Hanna, how do you quote just a small portion of what someone wrote? I have tried and tried to do that, but always end up having to quote the whole thing..............I wanna know how............please!!!

Justawoman
10-06-2005, 07:21 AM
When you hit the quote button Beck the whole thing loads... right. Then just highlight what you don't want to get quote, hit the space bar and leave the rest.

Blondie_girl
10-07-2005, 12:56 PM
I would have been one of those parents wanting to use the opt out. I believe it is my place and my spouse's to teach sexuality at home. They do have the fundamental sex class here for those children entering middle school, then once again midway through middle school and then again (once or twice) when they are in high school. I know because you have to sign a consent form. But teaching what is normal and is not normal in the sex department is not the school's place or job. Teaching tolerance should start at home.


I could not agree with you more JAW. It feels like the homosexual life style is being shoved into our faces as well as in the schools curriculum whether we like it or not. We have judges and other prominent people in high positions who are gay and all of a sudden there is a big push for gay marriage.

Not to get off the subject here. If we allow gay marriage, where will sexual freedoms end? We may find marriage between three or more people or marriage between a brother and sister on our ballots next which will result in moral decay. This is only my opinion. :)

Justawoman
10-07-2005, 05:52 PM
Wouldn't surprise me one bit blondie.

Hannamoren
10-08-2005, 05:24 PM
Here in Norway , gay marriage are legal, and it doesn't worry me a bit. I have some gay friends, and if they want to marry their lover, it is perfectly OK by me. Sorry, I know this goes agains what most of you believe in here, but this is how I feel.
Just my 2 cents.

raybeck
10-10-2005, 02:34 AM
When you hit the quote button Beck the whole thing loads... right. Then just highlight what you don't want to get quote, hit the space bar and leave the rest.

Thank you, JAW, I'll give it a whirl!!!

raybeck
10-10-2005, 02:39 AM
Here in Norway , gay marriage are legal, and it doesn't worry me a bit. I have some gay friends, and if they want to marry their lover, it is perfectly OK by me. Sorry, I know this goes agains what most of you believe in here, but this is how I feel.
Just my 2 cents.

Hanna, you are entitled to your opinion. I don't agree with you, but that doesn't mean I have not ever had a gay friend, I have, I do not agree or suppport their lifestyle, but I am not the judge they will have to someday face. How I believe, it is not biblical to marry the same sex, that does not mean they cannot be very nice people, like I said, I do not support their choice, but it's not for me to be the judge on how they are living out of God's plan, and that's just my 2 cents worth, too...LOL