Forgivness

[Sin Eater]

Hi
Why do people find it hard to forgive.

[Grimey]

Why do you act like it is such a surprise? We find it hard to forgive because we none of us are perfect. If we were perfect, we would be willing to forgive. If we were perfect, there would be nothing to forgive.

[Justawoman]

I don't think it forgiveness that is hard, it is forgetting when someone hurts you.

[Sin Eater]

Why do you act like it is such a surprise? We find it hard to forgive because we none of us are perfect. If we were perfect, we would be willing to forgive. If we were perfect, there would be nothing to forgive.
Hi
I guess all this forgivness has to start somewhere.

[Dude111]

Well just an example:

If cheating is the reason,thats very hard to forgive cause you cant ever trust them again......

[pack momma]

depends on what you are being asked or expected to forgive. Some things are easier than others, Did you have something specific in mind, Sin Eater?
There are sins against us, and then there are willfull wrongs.

[MarriedforLife]

Forgiveness is hard because of the mess of feelings that we experience, anger, hurt, hate. The feelings stop us from deciding to forgive even if we want to forgive the person that hurt us. Often, I have found, that just deciding to forgive is the biggest and most important step to take. Do this even when you don't feel like forgiving and you will find that eventually the feeling will follow. Ask God to help you to forgive, that is His heart and He will help you.

Regarding the trust issue, well it is possible to trust again even after infidelity - but it is hard. The first step is again forgiveness. Then it takes lots of work and the person who don't trust needs to want to get to the place where they are trusted by you and be willing to put things in place in their lifestyle to start building trust. For example in the case of infidelity letting the spouse that was cheated against phone them whenever thoughts of insecurity rise up, allowing your spouse to come along with you whenever he or she is wondering exactly where you are going and is it for a secret rendevous.

This was meant to be a quick answer, sorry. We can talk more about this if you want?

[Emina]

Forgiveness is hard because still have love, if there is no love there is no forgiveness.

[Dude111]

Yes thats true my friend!!

So many have forgotton how to love!!

[Sophialiu]

Everything can be fade from one's memory, just need more time.

[Dude111]

Not if it was IMPORTANT to them they dont ever forget it :(