does age matter

red6883 · 02-12-2001, 11:05 PM

hey yall hows it goin i got a question that some people can answer me... does age matter?...some people have problems talking with someone who is young, then some younger people have problems talking to someone that is older. why what really matter how old a person it that you can talk to . i talk to anyone and when i try to talk to older people they say they cant talk to me... does that make me im mature or them... i have a boyfriend that is several years older than me but i feel i am mature enough to handel that. and he is also mature... i feel age doesnt matter if you are a nice enough person and dont discriminate against people than why does it matter...how old you are to talk to... tell me someone does age matter? thanx all. give me an answer or a reply if you get a chance...

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jamesglewisf · 02-13-2001, 12:12 AM

Does age matter for what? Do you mean being allowed to post at FrappyDoo? Anybody can post here, regardless of age.

I enjoy the posts of our younger members. I like to know what's going on with the next generation.

red6883 · 02-13-2001, 12:30 AM

the does age matter question is meaning in a relationship or just to be friends , i find a lot of older people dont like younger friends, and alot of younger ones dont like older people as friends, i see nothing wrong with bein friends with everyone no matter age/sex/race....ect.....

PsalmReader's Mom · 02-13-2001, 02:35 AM

Well Red (if I may), it's appropriate that my 100th post should be on a subject so dear to my heart!!!

Age does matter in a lot of ways, but it should never alienate one generation from another. In my opinion, that's the source of a lot of our problems "nowadays". Having slid down the far side of the hill awhile back, I know that there are prejudices both ways. Meeting some young people for the first time, I can read in their eyes that the handshake is just for the sake of good manners. They have no way of knowing yet that I'm a young person in an old body, trying to figure out what happened! ha ha! But sometimes you just can't get past that wall. It's the same with some folks from the other perspective, too. Sometimes it's hard for us to remember how we felt and behaved at your age. Why, unless my mind has totally failed me, I think we were much the same as you. People shouldn't ever miss an opportunity to make a friend because of age differences. Age and youth make for really interesting and varied viewpoints . . . lots to talk about and learn, both ways. Don't ever let it cause you to miss getting to know someone who might just be very special if you get inside their head.

red6883 · 02-13-2001, 02:48 AM

thank you for responding, i think your viewpoints are very good and i agree. i never let age stop me from talkin to anyone nor do i let race/sex/location/any of that discriminate me from talking i love to meet new people regarless of those things i mentioned... so thanx for the advice

Austruck · 02-13-2001, 11:19 AM

I agree, PRMom, that sometimes older folks get that "look" from the younger generation that looks as if they can't see any reason why they're still there!

What happened to the biblical idea of older people being the ones filled with wisdom and advice -- the ones no culture or family could do without because of all they knew and understood?

I think wisdom-links skip a generation. There were times as a teen that I understood my grandmother better than my mother. And my grandmother had a connection with me that my mom couldn't bridge because of the teen/mom thing.

One nice thing in my situation is that my eldest son (who's 16 and on this board, shhhh) and I seem to get along really well, which is probably odd for a "kid" who's halfway out the door in terms of age and maturity. He and I see movies together nearly every weekend (I buy tickets; he buys popcorn). Granted, it helps that we are similar personalities (my 14 yr old is harder because he's so QUIET, which I wish *I* could be!).

But I still am SOOOO thankful that, to my 16 yr old, age doesn't matter to him. He has good friends who are 12, and some very good friends who are over 40, and he treats them with the same respect. It's the same respect he (usually) shows me. And even if he DOES 'owe' it to me as his mom, that doesn't mean I can't be thrilled and grateful for it just the same. I've seen too many instances where there is no respect or understanding between parents and teens, so to have found it with the first of my kids is a really emotional boost.

I'll get back to you about the other three as they get older!

Red, good question! The key is to remember that aging happens to everyone, and youth happened to everyone. To discriminate against someone as a friend based on what year they were born is just silly.

Now, discriminating against them because of the thickness of their SOCKS, I can understand.....

PsalmReader's Mom · 02-13-2001, 01:17 PM

Yeah, those socks just do it to ya' every time, don't they Austruck!?! ha ha Your kids sound great, and I'll bet you'll be just as close to the younger as you are to your first.

Red, sounds like you didn't need the advice. I think you have it figured out already. Enjoyed the conversation, though. See you around?

"Mom"

Pamella · 02-13-2001, 01:58 PM

Creeps in, looks around whispers that her SO is a fair bit older than her, shouts

Age is just a number and doesn't matter at all.

slinks back out again.

*smile*
Mel

blinc · 02-13-2001, 02:40 PM

I agree with everything the others before me posted... can't even add anything to it, since they've hit on every aspect that was important to me too. Good advice there!

red6883 · 02-13-2001, 02:57 PM

thank you very much for showing my what you think on this subject, my opinion lies close if not exact on your i think age dose not matter that everyone should be treated with the same respect... i also am one that has younger friends and also have friends in their 50's and all the places in between i am one that gets along with my grandparents more than my mom but that is because my mother up and left me to live with her new "husband" who i can not stand cause he up and stole my mother and left for florida... and my grandparents practically raised me.. so i am very close with them but as far as my mother we are not as close as what we should be or were , my brother tottally rebels against her now for goin behind our backs findin a new flame and up and leaving us i am 17 now with no mother to look after me raise me. or just be there when i need to talk thats why i feel age does not matter cause ever since she started leaving us ive looked up to older people for advice like someone said they are there for wisedome and knowledge and i look down to the younger ones because i want to be there and help them through time of need... but i thank you all for you input

KatCo · 02-13-2001, 05:23 PM

I heard a cute saying regarding this once:

Age: It's all mind over matter: If you don't mind, it doesn't matter...

kezzer · 02-13-2001, 06:21 PM

I don't think age matters either. My hubby is a few years older than me, and most of my really good friends are too. Also, since going online, etc I've become friends with quite a few people younger than me. I think for the most part age is irrelevant, it's what's in your heart that counts.

momofmany38 · 02-13-2001, 09:29 PM

Hey Kezzer......I TOTALLY agree with you.....

My husband is 14 years older than me and it has made a diffrence......and by the way, KatCo......I love that saying......thanks for reminding me of it......

PsalmReader's Mom · 02-14-2001, 01:59 AM

That's probably one of the neatest things about the internet, don't you all think? All the preconceptions that usually grab us at first "look" are just out the window.

Red I'm sorry about your Mom. Please try not to be too bitter.

Sometimes people are blinded to the consequences of their actions and hurt the people who love them most terribly. Keep talking about it if it helps. Don't let it sizzle inside you, whatever you do.

Debby · 02-18-2001, 05:14 PM

Oh Red....your post about your mother up and leaving you just about broke my heart....life is soooooo unfair! I am 35, and would KILL to have a daughter like you, or any children for that matter...but I never have had any. My husband has 2 children who I adore, but he doesn't want anymore....so I will never know the feeling of having my own child, and god knows....if you were my daughter nothing and noone would ever keep me away from you!!!!

Maybe I can adopt you and you could be my "online" daughter! And anytime you needed to talk or needed any advice, I would be here for you!!! I would love that! I would even give you my e-mail address if you wanted! Well maybe I am getting carried away here...anyway, if you just want an older friend....I'm here for that too!

Debby

02-13-2001, 12:12 AM	#2
jamesglewisf Doofus Maximus Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Texas Posts: 8,138	Does age matter for what? Do you mean being allowed to post at FrappyDoo? Anybody can post here, regardless of age. I enjoy the posts of our younger members. I like to know what's going on with the next generation. __________________ Jim Lewis - Admin Tipping Etiquette Dining Etiquette JamesGLewis.com iPhone Tip Guide Movies Without Nudity.com To BE or not to BE

02-13-2001, 12:30 AM	#3
red6883 Fart Smeller Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: altoona PA Posts: 15	does age matter 2 the does age matter question is meaning in a relationship or just to be friends , i find a lot of older people dont like younger friends, and alot of younger ones dont like older people as friends, i see nothing wrong with bein friends with everyone no matter age/sex/race....ect.....

02-13-2001, 02:35 AM	#4
PsalmReader's Mom ZipZamZoom Charteroo Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: KY Posts: 282	Well Red (if I may), it's appropriate that my 100th post should be on a subject so dear to my heart!!! Age does matter in a lot of ways, but it should never alienate one generation from another. In my opinion, that's the source of a lot of our problems "nowadays". Having slid down the far side of the hill awhile back, I know that there are prejudices both ways. Meeting some young people for the first time, I can read in their eyes that the handshake is just for the sake of good manners. They have no way of knowing yet that I'm a young person in an old body, trying to figure out what happened! ha ha! But sometimes you just can't get past that wall. It's the same with some folks from the other perspective, too. Sometimes it's hard for us to remember how we felt and behaved at your age. Why, unless my mind has totally failed me, I think we were much the same as you. People shouldn't ever miss an opportunity to make a friend because of age differences. Age and youth make for really interesting and varied viewpoints . . . lots to talk about and learn, both ways. Don't ever let it cause you to miss getting to know someone who might just be very special if you get inside their head. __________________ This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24

02-13-2001, 02:48 AM	#5
red6883 Fart Smeller Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: altoona PA Posts: 15	does age matter3 thank you for responding, i think your viewpoints are very good and i agree. i never let age stop me from talkin to anyone nor do i let race/sex/location/any of that discriminate me from talking i love to meet new people regarless of those things i mentioned... so thanx for the advice

02-13-2001, 11:19 AM	#6
Austruck ZipZamZoom Charteroo Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: western Pa. Posts: 229	I agree, PRMom, that sometimes older folks get that "look" from the younger generation that looks as if they can't see any reason why they're still there! What happened to the biblical idea of older people being the ones filled with wisdom and advice -- the ones no culture or family could do without because of all they knew and understood? I think wisdom-links skip a generation. There were times as a teen that I understood my grandmother better than my mother. And my grandmother had a connection with me that my mom couldn't bridge because of the teen/mom thing. One nice thing in my situation is that my eldest son (who's 16 and on this board, shhhh) and I seem to get along really well, which is probably odd for a "kid" who's halfway out the door in terms of age and maturity. He and I see movies together nearly every weekend (I buy tickets; he buys popcorn). Granted, it helps that we are similar personalities (my 14 yr old is harder because he's so QUIET, which I wish I could be!). But I still am SOOOO thankful that, to my 16 yr old, age doesn't matter to him. He has good friends who are 12, and some very good friends who are over 40, and he treats them with the same respect. It's the same respect he (usually) shows me. And even if he DOES 'owe' it to me as his mom, that doesn't mean I can't be thrilled and grateful for it just the same. I've seen too many instances where there is no respect or understanding between parents and teens, so to have found it with the first of my kids is a really emotional boost. I'll get back to you about the other three as they get older! Red, good question! The key is to remember that aging happens to everyone, and youth happened to everyone. To discriminate against someone as a friend based on what year they were born is just silly. Now, discriminating against them because of the thickness of their SOCKS, I can understand..... __________________ Linda Proofreader to the Starz®

02-12-2001, 11:05 PM	#1
red6883 Fart Smeller Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: altoona PA Posts: 15	hey yall hows it goin i got a question that some people can answer me... does age matter?...some people have problems talking with someone who is young, then some younger people have problems talking to someone that is older. why what really matter how old a person it that you can talk to . i talk to anyone and when i try to talk to older people they say they cant talk to me... does that make me im mature or them... i have a boyfriend that is several years older than me but i feel i am mature enough to handel that. and he is also mature... i feel age doesnt matter if you are a nice enough person and dont discriminate against people than why does it matter...how old you are to talk to... tell me someone does age matter? thanx all. give me an answer or a reply if you get a chance... im on this

02-13-2001, 01:17 PM	#7
PsalmReader's Mom ZipZamZoom Charteroo Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: KY Posts: 282	Yeah, those socks just do it to ya' every time, don't they Austruck!?! ha ha Your kids sound great, and I'll bet you'll be just as close to the younger as you are to your first. Red, sounds like you didn't need the advice. I think you have it figured out already. Enjoyed the conversation, though. See you around? "Mom" __________________ This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24

02-13-2001, 01:58 PM	#8
Pamella ZipZamZoom Charteroo Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: In front of a monitor type thingie.. Posts: 245	Creeps in, looks around whispers that her SO is a fair bit older than her, shouts Age is just a number and doesn't matter at all. slinks back out again. smile Mel __________________ Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.-- Albert Einstein

02-13-2001, 02:40 PM	#9
blinc FrappyDoo! Adminiroo Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: N. Carolina, USA Posts: 2,930	I agree with everything the others before me posted... can't even add anything to it, since they've hit on every aspect that was important to me too. Good advice there!

02-13-2001, 02:57 PM	#10
red6883 Fart Smeller Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: altoona PA Posts: 15	thanx everyone thank you very much for showing my what you think on this subject, my opinion lies close if not exact on your i think age dose not matter that everyone should be treated with the same respect... i also am one that has younger friends and also have friends in their 50's and all the places in between i am one that gets along with my grandparents more than my mom but that is because my mother up and left me to live with her new "husband" who i can not stand cause he up and stole my mother and left for florida... and my grandparents practically raised me.. so i am very close with them but as far as my mother we are not as close as what we should be or were , my brother tottally rebels against her now for goin behind our backs findin a new flame and up and leaving us i am 17 now with no mother to look after me raise me. or just be there when i need to talk thats why i feel age does not matter cause ever since she started leaving us ive looked up to older people for advice like someone said they are there for wisedome and knowledge and i look down to the younger ones because i want to be there and help them through time of need... but i thank you all for you input

02-13-2001, 05:23 PM	#11
KatCo Woopdeedoo Charteroo Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Colorado Posts: 141	I heard a cute saying regarding this once: Age: It's all mind over matter: If you don't mind, it doesn't matter... __________________ Kat

02-13-2001, 06:21 PM	#12
kezzer WaffyDaffy Moderatoroo Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: CT Posts: 2,134	I don't think age matters either. My hubby is a few years older than me, and most of my really good friends are too. Also, since going online, etc I've become friends with quite a few people younger than me. I think for the most part age is irrelevant, it's what's in your heart that counts. __________________ My children are the reason for everything. The reason everything is broken, dirty, and out of place!

02-13-2001, 09:29 PM	#13
momofmany38 Woopdeedoo Charteroo Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In PA Posts: 134	Hey Kezzer......I TOTALLY agree with you..... My husband is 14 years older than me and it has made a diffrence......and by the way, KatCo......I love that saying......thanks for reminding me of it...... __________________ Live for today....because you never know what will happen tomorrow....after all, tomorrow never comes....

02-14-2001, 01:59 AM	#14
PsalmReader's Mom ZipZamZoom Charteroo Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: KY Posts: 282	That's probably one of the neatest things about the internet, don't you all think? All the preconceptions that usually grab us at first "look" are just out the window. Red I'm sorry about your Mom. Please try not to be too bitter. Sometimes people are blinded to the consequences of their actions and hurt the people who love them most terribly. Keep talking about it if it helps. Don't let it sizzle inside you, whatever you do. __________________ This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24

02-18-2001, 05:14 PM	#15
Debby Gigglesnort Charteroo Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Iowa Posts: 991	Oh Red....your post about your mother up and leaving you just about broke my heart....life is soooooo unfair! I am 35, and would KILL to have a daughter like you, or any children for that matter...but I never have had any. My husband has 2 children who I adore, but he doesn't want anymore....so I will never know the feeling of having my own child, and god knows....if you were my daughter nothing and noone would ever keep me away from you!!!! Maybe I can adopt you and you could be my "online" daughter! And anytime you needed to talk or needed any advice, I would be here for you!!! I would love that! I would even give you my e-mail address if you wanted! Well maybe I am getting carried away here...anyway, if you just want an older friend....I'm here for that too! Debby __________________ Debby